In This Edition:
1. Approaching Half the Year
2. Conscious Choices, More Completions
3. Complete on Two Fronts
4. The Completion that Keeps On Paying Off
5. From Breakdowns to Breakthroughs
Approaching Half the Year
Can it be? The NBA finals are in full swing. All the kids are out of school. The humidity is ready to roll in and yes, June 30, halfway through 2008, doth approach! Who knows where the time goes? Actually, I know: It is frittered away by an endless sea of choices, most of them unconscious. That’s why it’s vital to make pronounced choices about what you want and how you wish to feel.
Conscious Choices, More Completions
Choices, as I refer to them here, are positive affirmations that move you closer to feeling how you want to feel and accomplishing what you want to do. Choices are not synonymous with “positive thinking.” Unlike positive thinking, you make your conscious choices on a regular basis, regardless of how you might happen to feel at any given moment. The key is to keep making them.
Choices facilitate completions (see here) because sometimes there are components of a task or project that are out of our control. To gain a sense of satisfaction and closure, we can rely upon a completion statement such as, “I choose to feel complete about this project,” when no other form of closure will be realistically possible. This is particularly true in cases when:
Complete on Two Fronts
Making choices also helps you to become complete in the case of accomplishing something that has a psychological as well as a physical component. Suppose you have to do something that you’ve been putting off. You’d prefer to get it done butat the same time you know that when you’re finished, you’ll have mixed feelings about what transpired.
A prime scenario is if you have to terminate someone at work. You don’t want to be the bad guy, but it is your responsibility, and the situation certainly merits termination. When you’ve completed the task, no matter how effective you’ve been, you still may have lingering psychological ramifications.
No matter how good you feel about yourself, how well the day is going, and how appropriate your actions have been. Sometimes you need to put a capper on the deed. It may be entirely advisable and even necessary to turn to completion statements in the form of conscious choices about how you would like to feel. For example, these kinds of statements are helpful:
I choose to feel complete about the task.
The Completion that Keeps on Paying Off
There is one of the essential choice you can make on a continuous basis to feel worthy and complete in a variety of situations, is to simply affirm to yourself. "I choose to feel worthy and complete." This can help you reduce anxiety, remain calm, and feel more relaxed throughout the day.
When you choose to feel worthy and complete, instantly, you tend to redirect yourself. You recognize that virtually everything you do is based on your choice. You can continue working on a particular task, specifically one that has been assigned to you, and choose to remain productive and balanced in its completion.
You can even choose to acknowledge your completions each day.
From Breakdowns to Breakthroughs Thinking
Suppose your car breaks down; you’re stranded. The tow truck finally arrives and now you’re two hours behind schedule. You decide it’s going to be a lousy day, and many people might agree with you. There is another way to proceed. You can then choose to be thankful that the delay was only two hours.
If you have work with you, you can stay productive. Give yourself a completion for having handled the morning’s mini-ordeal. In this manner, you free up the psychic energy that might have been bottled up within your frustration. Once your car is ready, you are energized to reclaim your day. Here are other examples on how to move from potential breakdown to breakthrough by choosing how you want to feel, acknowledging where you are, and remaining focused on what you want to accomplish:
Here’s a tough one.